" The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself, without the threat of you leaving. "
Kai, Lessons in Life #39 (via psych-facts)
"space to be him or herself" w/o the threat of me leaving….that sounds like some misogynistic/potentially abusive mess to me. You can’t be my friend…when the space you crave or require disrupts my will…you can’t be out here trampling on my boundaries and abusing me…b/c you need freedom to be yourself. The price of your friendship is too great…if you being comfortable means me being silent about your raggedy behavior…you may need to bounce.
And this my friends is what love is.